As history has shown, many individual choices, life attitudes and human dispositions are due to instinctive reactions, which are not explained by sound reason. Jealousy is one of them
Even people who in theory love us can sometimes be jealous of us and express a kind of envy towards us. Especially when it comes to people you don’t have and don’t want to have any connection with. When you possess certain enviable personal characteristics that attract attention, such as intelligence, beauty, creativity, it may turn off some complex people in your environment, professional or friendly, some of whom you are a favorite topic of conversation. You can tell if this is happening by these three behavioral patterns.
They misunderstand and misrepresent your work, showing that they have misunderstood your intentions, but also your abilities
In fact they have understood just fine, just in an effort to reverse the disadvantageous position they feel or are in, they are prone to acts that manifest envy. So they patiently wait for their target to make a mistake, in order to present it as much bigger or worse, they exploit unclear issues by giving them the worst possible dimension. In the same context, they constantly raise obstacles and constantly set higher standards, never being satisfied.
They make ad hominem attacks and use stereotypes
The ad hominem argument is essentially an argument “against the person” and is a logical fallacy, which consists of responding to an argument by directly insulting the person who formulated it and without actually pointing out the flaws in the argument. It is an attack on the person and this can manifest itself in derogatory expressions about his body type, sexual identity and even his origin. Essentially, this is the only way they can discredit or underestimate someone’s intelligence, abilities or even talent. For example, questioning an author on the grounds that he only writes gay or football literature (which are supposedly low-level genres) or that he’s an alcoholic and a womanizer is an ad hominem attack, because it doesn’t make you a good writer genre or rather, in all genres there are good and bad writers, regardless of what character one is.
They argue that they tire and try harder than you
By saying this they essentially believe that they deserve more than you and while they see that you earn them more easily the more they envy you. In every great effort you make and in every achievement, they recognize the favor of luck and circumstances. Because they feel disadvantaged about who they are, they are willing to look down on your luck or privilege, even when they too benefit from your advantages. They are prone to assume that your life path has been without obstacles.